Though empathic abilities are a gift, but they also come with a set of struggles, since your senses pick up on subtle human’s energy, empathy can become overwhelming at some points. So many times, you feel distressed and can’t help yourself thinking you are overdoing it. You can resist your feelings and pains, but not others- you attend to their needs while you neglect yours.
It is so that even after leaving an argument, you are still preoccupied with what the other person was thinking. This is you, this is the life you live- -life of an empath.
Now that you want to opt-out, abide with these few tips:
1. Maximise Self-awareness
You need always to be prepared to explore and meet your own needs. Look, you have not been thinking about them, so you might not know what those needs are. Whenever your empathy is activated, regard it as a signal to turn a spotlight on your own feelings. Think of and about yourself and think aloud if necessary to gain that level of consciousness, so well. Ask yourself: What am I feeling right now? What do I need now? When you realise this, you will know the portions of yourself you are to give to others, and the portions you are to give yourself accordingly.
2. Avoid Emotional Scenes
Since the emotional needs of people are irresistible to you, try avoiding ugly emotional scenes. Once you start noticing you are almost absorbing people’s negative and sorry feelings, create some distance and protect your emotions.
This very act is teaching you Self-management- -taking charge of your emotions. Now, you are refusing to be led on by your emotion, rather you are taming it.
3. Learn To Say ‘NO’
Say NO where necessary, you cannot always say YES, if you are sounding affirmative always, then you will harm yourself (even your emotions) in no time. Plus, it is even dangerous saying YES to everyone, now that you want to get out of empathy; set boundaries. Remember this is a new practice to you, and you might find it hard for you to do, you need boldness to make this happen.
Suppose your friend is burdened with financial struggles. You only have little on you and this request puts you in an uncomfortable position. Clearly state that you cannot meet such expectations at the moment: “You know, I’d really like to help you about this, but not at the moment. I am not buoyant as well. Can you hold on for the next couple of days?”
4. Work More with Your Mind
You have been cheating yourself because you have been working only with your emotions, and not with your mind, too. Be logical now, enough of being emotional. Always take time to think things through and resist that urge to handle it emotionally. Engage in an analytic approach: consider the pros and cons of everything you are deciding on, this will help you to interpret emotions correctly.