It’s a good thing that almost everyone wants to get involved in a relationship that can possibly lead to marriage. Sadly though, not everyone is good enough for a relationship. There are several toxic, narcissistic and selfish people out there, which is why we need to be very careful before going into a relationship with anyone.
Being in a relationship with these kind of people is very harmful and detrimental to us. Because of this we should be on the look out for signs that will tell you someone is selfish so you can stay away from them. These signs include the following
1. It’s All About Them
You are both in the relationship together, but for some reason, you can’t shake the feeling that it’s all about them instead. They are always concerned about themselves and not you. They bother so much about how this or that will affect them, how this will look on their image, how they will react to this etc. They do not place much value on your decisions, ideas, inputs or even wellbeing, unless it is to their benefit. If you find yourself involved with someone like this, it would be wise to let go before it is too late.
2. You Don’t Ever Get A Word In
When you are having a conversation or even an argument, it’s extremely difficult to say just one thing. This is because they are always the one talking. They hardly give you the time to make an input or say something. It’s always about how awesome they are, how people love them, how you hurt them with your words or even how lucky you are to be with them. They enjoy the sound of their own voice so much, it’s almost impossible to let anyone else talk.
3. They Make So Many Rules… To Control You
You may not realize it at first, probably because they tell you it is for the best or that it is for your own good. But the truth is that those rules are for their own personal gain. If you check well, those rules are meant to keep you in check so they can be in charge. They hold such control over your life meanwhile they live theirs freely. It’s almost as if they are choking you with all the rules.
4. They Don’t Care About Your Character
This may seem like an unfair trait, but selfish people do not really care if you are honest or not. What they are interested in is the image you have and what people see and know about you. If you are the influential type, it does not really matter if you lie or if you are not trustworthy so long as that image is beneficial to them. They will not pay attention to the flaws you have that need to be corrected, instead they focus on how being with you can help them.