Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, especially if you are in it with a person who truly cares about you and loves you deeply. But what if your relationship is not as true as you thought it would be? What if you are in a relationship with a rebounder? How can you tell? Before you start picking up the signs of a rebound relationship, you must first find out what it is.
What Is A Rebound Relationship
Everyone gets that sick, sad and depressed feeling you get when you have just been through a breakup. You may be tempted to get rid of that pain by getting involved in another relationship almost immediately after the first one, in the hopes of finding relief from the pain they are going through. While this may be beneficial to one party, what about the other? What if you get into a relationship with someone and they have no idea it is a rebound relationship and end up getting hurt in the long run.
Basically, this whole things means that a rebound relationship is like a soothing balm for broken hearts in relationships. It is not as serious as a real relationship but it should be a mutual knowledge and understanding between the two parties. Otherwise, the whole cycle of heartbreak begins again. Having known what rebound relationship truly means,
Here are 5 signs that you are in a rebound relationship.
1. There Is A Lot Of Sex
This is not to say that sex in a relationship is not ok, the problem there is how often it happens. Let’s not forget that a rebound relationship is one meant for distraction and taking the mind away from the pain of the past relationship. So a new relationship where the new partner is hardly interested in anything else except sex is suspicious enough. It could be that they are simply using you as a distraction to get their mind away from their previous relationship, and at the same time, trying to avoid any deep emotional connection with you.
2. No Shared Interests Or Common Ground
One of the first reasons why relationships kick start in the first place is the presence of common grounds or shared interests or hobbies. A relationship where there is nothing to talk about, nothing you both have an affinity for, nothing you both love to do, or even something you both hate is not as real as it may look. They may profess unending love for you, but if you both cannot sit together and actually have fun just being with each other, then the relationship is clearly a rebound.
3. Everything Moves Too Fast
We have all heard about fairy tale relationships of love at first sight, but trust me, it’s not that easy or simple. You just met once or twice, have had lunch maybe more than three times, and they are already telling you how much they can’t live without you or how much they love you already despite your flaws. Hold on, they do not know your flaws yet, but yet it feels like they would do anything for you. There is barely time to catch your breath because the whole thing is moving at great speed. To be sure that it is rebound relationship, you will have that feeling that it is all too good to be true and the knowledge that you still do not know much about these people.
4. Everything Is About Their EX
As much as they will try to deny it or reassure you that they are with you now, you can’t help but notice the lingering feeling for their ex. It is clearly evident when they do everything to make the so called ex jealous whenever they are around you both. Or when they suddenly lash out in anger over what the ex had done, or when they tell you how terrible the ex was. All these are signs that they are not completely over their ex and are only using you in the rebound relationship.
5. The Whole Relationship Is Unstable
One moment they are all over you and want to spend every waking and sleeping moment with you, and the next minute they want to be far away from you. This constant imbalance in their feeling and affection toward you is a sign that they have not made up their mind on whether they want to be with you or not. Most importantly, they are still caught up in the world of their previous relationship. They want you and at the same time, do not know what they are doing with you.