How to protect yourself from emotional harm

How to protect yourself from emotional harm

We say prevention is better than cure! This post will articulate on how to keep yourself away from emotional damage, and not how to heal from emotional damage. “Experience is the best teacher” is not always the best line to say when it comes to matters of emotion, some things are best not to be experienced. Eighty percent of people who suffered emotional harm still suffer its relapse once in a while.

Emotional harm brings detriment to your emotional and physical health, and the scar is not always permanently healed as we used to claim.

How do you keep away from emotional harm?

5 Things to give up in 2022 for 2023

5 Things to give up in 2022 for 2023

Once bitten twice shy! – Does this statement rings a bell to you. There are some things you did wrong already in this year that should not repeat itself in the incoming year if actually you want the New Year to be an improvement on the existing year. Yes! Afflictions should not rise the second time.

There are professional habits you have to do without, you are going to employ new habits to drive out old habits that have not been rewarding. It is said that you have to stop doing things the old way to get new results. Next year can be a better and more successful year for you if you what it takes.

You keep failing and falling short of your goals because you have not been taking into consideration and deliberation the few errors in your judgement, repeated everyday. Actually, failure is not a single, devastating event – it does not happen overnight. And success? Success is neither magical nor mysterious – it is only a natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.

Now that you intend getting better in months to come, below are few things you should no longer do for a better and rewarding year:

Signs He is playing on your mind

Signs He is playing on your mind

Men can be players when you least expected. You think you have found love, whereas you have only found player for yourself. He knows he is only ready to play hide and seek game with you in the name of love – you don’t know this. But he is only tagging along with you, he does not mean business with you.

And often times. He can look the real deal, where as he is actually decked in false hood. How do you know he is a real lover and not player?

Below are signs he has only come around to play with you, he is not in the business that will benefit both of you:

5 Signs You Captured a man’s heart

5 Signs You Captured a man’s heart

You have captured his heart when he does for you what he will not do for/to a random person. He behaves differently to you, and his action can confirm that he finds you captivating. More than what he says, his actions speak louder than voice. And the most viable means to know if you have captured him and his heart is in what he does and not what he says only – he might not say much but he will do much for you.

These are signs that you earn a good place for yourself in his core of hearts:

5 Ways To Get Better In Things You Do

5 Ways To Get Better In Things You Do

Good better best! You should not rest on your good until it becomes better while you remain yearning to give your daily best. In this case, your motto is no longer “one good turn deserves another,” it is now “one good turn deserves a better turn.”

Going about doing your things better than it used to be means you already become better. After all, you can’t give what you don’t have.

Below are ways that guide you into journey of better than good:

How to protect yourself from emotional harm

How to protect yourself from emotional harm

We say prevention is better than cure! This post will articulate on how to keep yourself away from emotional damage, and not how to heal from emotional damage. “Experience is the best teacher” is not always the best line to say when it comes to matters of emotion, some things are best not to be experienced. Eighty percent of people who suffered emotional harm still suffer its relapse once in a while.

Emotional harm brings detriment to your emotional and physical health, and the scar is not always permanently healed as we used to claim.

How do you keep away from emotional harm?

3 BIG ways to be independent in a relationship

3 BIG ways to be independent in a relationship

Independence is a state of freedom – your relationship should not be a cage to you, it is a place where you find expressions and your freedom. The best way to be in a relationship is loving to be needed and wanted and not to be needy yourself – this is an independent life at its best. It is a life you should live, it will make you indispensable to your partner.

You will be crossing a bridge of sighs if you depend on your partner for everything – talking about dating relationship (and not the married partner). However, some people in the name of “I want to be independent in my relationship” has coughed people out of their relationship because they go too far with their independence. Heed the warning that your independence does not mean he will love you more, if you are a lady. If your role as an independent person is so full of insecurities in your relationship with him, then the power independence provides you will cancel itself out and leave you with nothing – not talking about physical things here. Don’t be one of the people who believe that the ultimate form of power is independence – battle of power is what has been killing many relationships out there. But there are ways to be an independent partner in your relationship much to the honor and delight of your partner – as a man or woman that you are.

Below are ways you should consider in becoming a good independent person:

5 Female Behaviours That Pull Men

5 Female Behaviours That Pull Men

It is normal to find a guy attractive, but it is painful when you are unable to court his attention. And secretly, you had wish what you feel for him should not be one-sided, you want him to feel the same too or in some cases, you just want to find means to express yourself even if you won’t have to say it by mouth.

However you must know what a man likes if you always want to get what you want – more than your beauty, there are some behaviours he will see in you that would make him come running to you – the behaviours pull him closer and nearer. He will definitely find his ways to be with you.

Below are strings that will pull him to you –all what you have to do is to sit down and look:

1. Compassion

When a female exhibits kindness, it gladdens the heart of men. Seeing lady tending to others, doing their best makes the head of a man swell. One of the many thoughts that will be in his head is to have such person around and with him.

The 4 Persons You Need To Become, To Be The Most Important Person In The Life of Your Partner

The 4 Persons You Need To Become, To Be The Most Important Person In The Life of Your Partner

To be the thing or person that ever happen to your romantic partner, then you would need to become many things and persons for them (the big 4 will be talked about below). You just don’t want to be a figure head person with inefficient title of a lover. Your goal is to be the most valuable person in their life, desiring to become the most important person in the life of your partner is not a selfish thing to do. By all standard, you are the most qualified and privileged person to become so, failing to do so when you actually can means someone somewhere will take the position away from you and you would be forced to play catch up with that person in the life of your partner.

You wouldn’t want to be in this situation because you will be frustrated living a tenant in the heart of your partner. Also, it deprives you of some stars and magic to be experienced in your relationship.

What guys think after you sleep with them

What guys think after you sleep with them

Only a man can know what is going on in the head of a fellow man.  Here, you will get to know some random things man think in his head after he has laid with you. One thing is sure: he makes some decisions after he sleeps with you. He reaches a compromise or conclusion whenever he sleeps with you. You will find some of his thoughts shocking

1. “You are not more than this”

Before he gets in bed for you, he fantasizes a lot in his head and due to his running emotions, he had high regard for you. But now that he has laid with you, he is ready to give up on you. He ceases to make efforts on you and ready to forfeit his promises because he now think he has seen you all – and maybe probably, he has seen it all.

6 BIG Benefits of Music

6 BIG Benefits of Music

Music is a universal language that everyone speak, it is a message that reaches the heart, and thus, it is irresistible. One of the things that keep people going – most of us, is our playlist. Music is spiritual, psychological, physical, social, cultural and emotional; this is one of the big reasons its root is so grounded in man. Everyone identify with music, though we have different taste of genre. I mean to say different people with different choice of song. Still, it is universal currency we spend to in exchange of hope, redemption, and a friend that sticks closer than blood relations.

Below are what music will offer you:

1. Music Comforts

Music is a delight to soul, it eases the tension of the listener and appeal to their emotions. It heals ailing heart. Music can be a burden bearer – it shares your pain because you can identify with what the artiste has sung: you have its firsthand experience. Sometimes, the songs you listen to reflect your present situation and you get attracted to such songs because you can see yourself as the singer now. The music that shares your bad memory will also inform you that there is light waiting for you at the end of the tunnel.

What Did You See First?

what-did-you-see-first

This is a teaser that tests your intelligence and stimulates your intuition for the overall benefit of good and functioning mental intelligence. This visual personality test will contribute greatly and helps improve on your mental health in ways you don’t imagine.

We are all unique in our lights, while some will see one at the first sight, few will see three objects at a go. Though this happens, it does not mean the individuals that can see three objects at first sight are better than individuals that could only see one or two. It only reflects some truths about life and help us to know their different uniqueness – their unique personalities.

You don’t have to beat yourself hard if all you can see at first is one object only, don’t take it too personal should your friend tease you for that. It is all fun. Let me remind you again that it does not mean your friend or partner that sees more than one at a time is more intelligent than you. No! But you will get to know what is unique about you, and little things you can improve on, if you think you are lacking in some ways.

Now, let’s get to it – remember to laugh at yourself and laugh at the same time.

4 Ways To Really Live One Day At A Time.

4 ways to really live one day at a time.

It is your responsibility to know how to number your days. Numbering your days is keeping your days safe from every unhealthy habits and things that deny your days their fulfillment.

You would only find yourself to blame if you miss out on opportunities when you are aware that you could have done better. Failing to maximize your day will usher in pains, and regrets (the had-I-known feeling). Everyday has its magic, you would miss out on it if you do less than what you are expected to do. You only have today once, tomorrow is not today, and next tomorrow is not tomorrow. It is a time/day waste already if you find yourself doing tomorrow’s activities in next tomorrow. It tells you are lagging behind. It is not safe to play catch-up.

However, in as much that people don’t want this to happen to them, yet they keep shooting themselves in leg. Is this you?

The 4 Persons You Need To Become, To Be The Most Important Person In The Life of Your Partner

The 4 Persons You Need To Become, To Be The Most Important Person In The Life of Your Partner

To be the thing or person that ever happen to your romantic partner, then you would need to become many things and persons for them (the big 4 will be talked about below). You just don’t want to be a figure head person with inefficient title of a lover. Your goal is to be the most valuable person in their life, desiring to become the most important person in the life of your partner is not a selfish thing to do. By all standard, you are the most qualified and privileged person to become so, failing to do so when you actually can means someone somewhere will take the position away from you and you would be forced to play catch up with that person in the life of your partner.

You wouldn’t want to be in this situation because you will be frustrated living a tenant in the heart of your partner. Also, it deprives you of some stars and magic to be experienced in your relationship.

The 4 Persons You Need To Become, To Be The Most Important Person In The Life of Your Partner

While you can actually become the most important person in the life of your partner, rightly become such person. Don’t fight for it and force it on your lover, you have to earn the most revered position in the place of service

1. Best Friend

It is a good sign that you are best friend to your partner. This is the most important person you can ever be to them, never give room to become just a partner in the capacity of an ordinary friend. Being best friend to each other says a lot. It means you spend the biggest chunk of your time with each other … it means you have gone through thick and thin together (and still ready to take on another) … it tells that you know each other dark secrets and you still choose to be together.

When To Illuminate Amber Light In Your Relationship

when to illuminate amber light in your relationship

The Amber light is the intermediate light in a set of three traffic lights. Other two are green and red. The amber light, which when illuminated indicates that drivers should stop short of the intersection. It is a moment of introspection and other consideration. At the beginning, it is more of pause than stop.

However, if deems fit save to do so, then it becomes a real stop that stop whatever you are going on with prematurely. In love and relationship affairs, there are times when you are required to illuminate amber light and to do away with gullibility. You should do this now to avoid doing that. Sometimes you end up in situations where you suspect the decision you made earlier as you are not quite sure if you have made the right decision while you still can correct it. Yes! It’s okay to feel this way … it’s safe to double check our actions and decisions.

There are moments to do this, even you can do this anytime – almost on the finishing line or in the middle of it.

1. Do You Know Your Partner?

Love as a feeling is never enough to see you through both in courtship and marriage.  There is a greater thing required of you after having affectionate feeling for your partner, it is to know your partner so well. Be to places together, be in moments together, encounter some seasons together, ask questions and refuse to be robbed by your emotion (what you feel for your partner).

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